Awareness is becoming more fully grounded in the present moment.
Developing the ability to stay in the present moment is an important step in recovery. Many abuse survivors spend a lot of time fixating on the past or thinking about the future, but healing comes through recognizing what your current thoughts and feelings are. The first step in learning to manage your emotions is becoming aware of them. Cultivating a willingness to be fully in the present moment will help. To be present, you need to be aware of what is going on, both inside and outside of you. In a moment of crisis, you can use this strategy to become aware of your body and bring yourself back to the present.
Acknowledgement helps you accept where you are on your individual healing journey.
As you travel on your healing journey, you need to acknowledge and accept where you are right now. Acknowledgement includes being honest about past traumatic events and the effects they’ve had on you. But acknowledgement doesn’t stop there. It can help you realize that abuse is not your fault and you can heal. Acknowledgement encourages you to recognize that healing will take time. Everyone’s journey is different, and you need to continually assess where you are on yours.
Power Through Surrender is knowing what to fight and, more importantly, what not to fight.
At first, surrender might seem like a word that indicates defeat, but surrender is a way to reclaim power. Power comes through determining what and when to fight. Triggers and unpleasant memories will surface in your daily life. You might try to fight those unwanted thoughts, but fighting often isn’t the most effective approach. If you recognize unwanted thoughts and let them be, they will dissipate faster than if you focus on and fight them.
Mindfulness is the ability to focus on empowering thoughts and feelings while choosing to coexist with unproductive thoughts and feelings.
Mindfulness comes from the realization that you have the power of choice in spite of the trauma you’ve experienced. When negative thoughts come into your awareness, the conscious part of your brain can do something about it. You can’t control all of the thoughts that come into your mind, but you can control the way you react to those thoughts. This strategy isn’t meant to minimize what you’ve been through. You can’t change the past, but you can learn to manage it. Through mindfulness, you can develop habits of thinking that will help you manage your responses to your past on an ongoing basis.
Faith is the act of moving forward based on your belief that healing is possible, even if you may not see it yet.
Faith is a power that has the capacity to change things. It involves believing in a brighter future and believing in something that is bigger than you. This belief doesn’t necessarily need to be rooted in religion or spirituality. Ultimately, you need to believe that you can recover even though the process takes effort and time. When you apply the 5 Strategies to Reclaim Hope, you will heal, but the journey might not go as quickly or as smoothly as you’d like. Use faith to keep your perspective: tomorrow can be better based on what you do today.
#“I am a survivor. I am a wife! I am a mom! I am a daughter! I am a sister! I am a friend! I am hope. I am love. I am an encouragement to other women. These words get to define me, not a number in a statistic!